Look after yourself, and look after each other

Before you meet someone

• Video call or voice call first. Verified photos prove a face, not a vibe.
• Meet somewhere public the first time. A café, a bar, a busy street. Always.
• Tell one friend where you are going and who with. Share your live location with them.
• Make your own way there and back. Do not let someone else control how you leave.
• Keep your phone charged and keep your drink with you.
• If something feels off, leave. You owe nobody an explanation or an apology.

Protecting yourself online

• Do not share your full name, workplace, or home address until you genuinely trust someone.
• Be careful with photos that show your street, your office, or your car plate.
• Never send money to anyone here. Not for a bus fare, not for an emergency. Nobody genuine will ask.
• Keep chat inside the app until you are comfortable. It is easier to report and block here.
• Use the private album rather than sending sensitive photos into a chat.

Why privacy matters more here than almost anywhere

People on this app have families, jobs, landlords and neighbours. For some of them, being seen on a site like this — or being outed about who they are attracted to — is not embarrassing, it is genuinely dangerous. It can cost someone their marriage, their job, or their safety.

So the rule is simple and it is absolute: what you see here stays here. No screenshots. No forwarding. No telling your friends who you saw. Not as a joke, not in a group chat, not “just to one person”. If we find out you have done it, your account is gone and it is not coming back.

Consent, plainly

Consent is enthusiastic, specific, and reversible. “No” means no. Silence means no. “Maybe later” means no for now. Agreeing to meet is not agreeing to anything else, and someone can change their mind at any point — before, during, or after arranging something. That is not rudeness. That is their right, and it is yours too.

Do not send explicit photos to someone who has not said they want them. It is not a flirtation, it is something being done to a person who did not ask.

Being kind when you are not interested

You will not fancy most people, and most people will not fancy you. That is completely normal and not an insult. A short, warm “thanks, but I don’t think we’re a match — take care” costs you four seconds and saves someone an afternoon of wondering. No negging, no cruel jokes about someone’s body, no ghosting mid-plan.

Feelings happen. Talk about them.

This place is built for no-strings connections, and that is the default everyone agreed to. But people are people, and sometimes one of you starts feeling something more. The worst possible move is to quietly hope and say nothing.

Say it. If you both want the same thing, wonderful — the app has a way to agree on that together so it is not left to guesswork. If you do not, you both get to walk away with dignity and without wasting months.

When something goes wrong

Every profile and every chat has Block and Report. Blocking is instant and silent — they are not told. Reporting sends it to a human.

Report anyone who:

• Pressures you, threatens you, or will not take no for an answer
• Sends explicit photos you did not ask for
• Asks you for money, or seems to be running a scam
• Threatens to share your photos or expose you — this is a crime, not a private matter
• Seems to be underage, or is not the person in their photos

If you are in immediate danger, contact the police on 119. For support around gender-based violence, the national helpline 1938 operates around the clock.