Four steps, about two minutes

1. Sign in with Google

We use Google sign-in because it means you never create another password, and we never store one. Signing in tells us your name and email address — and that is where it stops. We do not post anything, we do not read your contacts, and we do not touch anything else in your Google account.

Your email address is never shown to another member. It is stored separately from your profile, and the database rules physically prevent other accounts from reading it — not “hidden in the interface”, genuinely unreadable.

2. Tell us what you are actually after

Straight after signing in you land on a short setup wizard. It saves as you go, so you can close it and come back. We ask for:

• The basics — your date of birth (18+, and it has to match the age you confirmed), gender, pronouns and orientation.
• Your situation — single, dating around, in an open relationship, married, separated, divorced, or it is complicated. This matters. People deserve to know what they are walking into, and plenty of members are specifically fine with it.
• Where you are — your district and city. We only ever store an approximate location, snapped to a rough grid. Other members see “about 6 km away”, never a map pin.
• What you are looking for — a one-time meet, something ongoing, friends with benefits, chat only, a travel companion, or open to seeing where it goes.
• Your preferences — who you are interested in, age range, how far you are willing to travel, and your deal-breakers.
• Practical things — whether you can host, whether you can travel, languages you speak, and your expectations around safer sex.

That is genuinely all of it. We do not ask for your phone number, your workplace, your income, or your ID.

3. Verify yourself with a photo

This is the required bit, and it is the reason this app is worth using. We show you a random pose — something like “left hand on your head, two fingers up” — and ask you to take a live selfie doing it. We check it against your profile photos, and the selfie is deleted once that is done. No other member ever sees it. Because the pose is random and generated at that moment, a photo someone saved from Instagram will not pass.

Until you are verified you cannot browse, match, or message anyone. We say this loudly before you sign up because it is not fair to spring it on you afterwards.

The verification page covers the rest: what the automatic pre-check can and cannot do, what happens to your selfie, and why verifying does not oblige you to show your face to anybody.

4. Meet people who want the same thing

Now you can actually use the thing. We match you on distance, age, what you are each looking for, and whether your situations are compatible. You can swipe through a deck or browse a grid with filters — whichever you prefer. When two people like each other, a chat opens.

Seeing who liked you is free, and so are the filters. There is nothing here to buy.

What about email verification?

Nothing to do. Google has verified your address before it ever reaches us, so the badge arrives the moment you sign in, and we will never send you a “confirm your email” link to prove something we already know. Photo verification is the only one that asks anything of you.